Being a stay-at-home parent is anything but simple sometimes. It can be boring, mentally draining, isolating or even (I despise to say it) boring. Fortunately is that there are some great strategies for staying sane and maintaining the joy in your life at home with your children.
Create a schedule that really helps you – and stay on it! A child’s life has a natural rhythm to it. When you learn how to comply with that flow, rather than forcing your child into your rhythms, you will all be happier and healthier. Spend a couple of days simply noticing when your child is naturally hungry, tired, energized and needing the bathroom. You will begin to notice a pattern: write it down and fill in the moments that benefit errands, creative play, big-energy play and quiet reading and nuzzle times. Following a predictable schedule will have several effects on you: 1) Time will go by faster because you aren’t simply looking at an empty stretch of day, not knowing what to do in it. 2) Every kid responds incredibly well to being on a schedule. It makes them feel secure, in control and well-loved. Children like predictability and stability when it comes to the structure of their day. 3) If you are overly busy – like 95 % of us nowadays – being on a schedule will keep you and your kids centered in the busy-ness. The more centered and grounded your children feel, the less chaos they will contribute to your home. And make sure to get outside each and every day. (If we can do it here in rainy Oregon, you can do it where you live!).
Take a lesson for adults. Get yourself out of the house every week for a modicum of fully developed time. It’s truly crucial for you as well as your youngsters that you not isolate yourself. You require psychological as well as social stimulation in order to be a fully functioning adult. For me, taking piano lessons has been a wonderful way for me to get out of the house and have a little time on my own weekly. It’s likewise something that I anticipate sharing with my children as they grow.
Take one evening off every week. I learned this one from a stay-at-home mom who knows, without an uncertainty, that she is a better mommy due to the fact that she takes a few hours off each and every single week. She schedules this special time months in advance and holds it very sacred. By the way, her partner also takes one evening off a week and also they schedule date nights virtually every Friday. This couple is an excellent example of the concept that in order to fill up another’s mug, you need to fill your pitcher first. They are able to be more present to their little girl when they have the space to fill up their “love tanks” away from her.
Volunteer. Whether it’s at your church or your older child’s school or another company that you are passionate about … If you don’t get out of your home and help someone else, your life will get way too small and you will likely begin to consume about any issues you have. It is just one of the terrific paradoxes of life: when you are feeling most drained, go aid someone else. You will begin to feel energized and gain some perspective about life and an appreciation for all the good you have.
If you begin to feel like you have a thankless job, that drags on 1 Day a day and also that you never get relief, it’s time to start chatting to your spouse about what’s going on. Remember that you’re a parenting group, also if you are the one spending the majority of time with the kids. Ensure your partner has a say in what’s going on and that s/he really recognizes the dynamic that you’re working with. I’m not speaking about complaining: I’m talking about interaction as well as problem-solving.
Being a stay-at-home parent really is a true blessing, for you as well as for your youngsters, as long as you approach it with a mutual understanding of how to stay happy and healthy and balanced.